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Don't Rush The Wedding Bands - A Jewelers Advice


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Keith J. Saxe

NYC Wholesale Diamonds

When you find that special someone to share the ultimate love with, the beautiful moment is celebrated with a promise represented by your first keepsake – your engagement ring.

When that promise becomes a lifetime commitment, the engagement ring is joined by a wedding band.  And it’s quite common for the store selling you the engagement ring to push for you to purchase the wedding bands at the same time.

That’s usually a mistake. It’s important to take the time to select a design you absolutely love, and that’s not a decision to be made in haste. Too often, I have a bride coming in to my office saying that she hates her band and asking how to change it without hurting the groom's feelings.

The best way to avoid this pitfall is simple – do not buy your wedding bands when you purchase your engagement ring.

This advice is almost always met with resistance, and comments such as "I trust you, and am ready to buy, why wait?" and "We are so in love and want to move forward with all our plans, can't we just get this checked off the list?" I explain that waiting is entirely in their best interest.

The best time to buy your wedding bands is three to four months prior to your wedding. If you decide on a shorter engagement period, the midpoint between wedding and engagement is best; two months is sufficient if time is tight.

The primary reason not to purchase too soon is exactly why the store is pushing hard for you to buy the rings immediately. The chance of the bride knowing the wedding band design she ultimately desires is quite small at the time of engagement. Most brides think they know, but that opinion changes the vast majority of the time. She has never before worn a diamond ring of this magnitude and will need time to get a feel for it, which can take weeks or months. I have had countless brides who were sure of one design ultimately switch to a totally different style.

Price is also a major factor. You must resist the jewelry store salesperson’s offer of

'special discounts' if you purchase wedding bands immediately with the engagement ring. The discount is fiction – the store is trying to take advantage of your moment of excitement to sell you wedding bands at what in reality is a high retail price.

Also ignore the common advice of bridal publications to buy around Christmas or Valentine's Day. In fact, Christmas and Valentine's Day when prices are the highest – the advertised 'holiday sales' are a ruse, where prices are first marked up, then 'discounted' to a level higher than regular prices. A smart shopper, with time, can find a true wholesaler where prices are always a fraction of retail.

Of course, taking your time to buy wedding bands doesn’t mean waiting until the last minute. I recommend buying three to four months in advance because there is so much going on in the weeks before the wedding.  Some wedding bands need to be custom designed, a process that can take many weeks. You must both be available to check sizing and workmanship, and your time becomes precious as you approach the wedding day.

As your wedding bands represent your promise to each other, they are a keepsake of your eternal love. Every day they will take you right back to that magical moment when you said, "I do" and began your love story together.



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I disagree.


Planning for the wedding bands should start while you're shopping for the engagement ring, since many engagement rings have very elaborate designs, as well as shapes, that would not fit off the shelf wedding rings.


In a lot of cases, wedding bands may have to be custom made, in order to sit flush with the engagement ring.


If you're willing to wait (or pay for) a custom design, then there is no problem, but this is a decision you must make while looking at engagement rings.


Too many times have I seen couples looking for a wedding band a couple of days before the wedding, 'cause the jeweler didn't mention the difficulty to find a matching band, only to buy "temporary" bands, until custom ones could be made.

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I was a very happy man. My wonderful girlfriend and I had been dating for over a year, and so we decided to get married. There was only one little thing bothering me...It was her beautiful younger sister..



My prospective sister-in-law was twenty-two, wore very tight miniskirts, and generally was bra-less. She would regularly bend down when she was near me, and I always got more than a nice view. It had to be deliberate, because she never did it when she was near anyone else.



One day the "little" sister called and asked me to come over to check the wedding invitations. She was alone when I arrived, and she whispered to me that she had feelings and desires for me that she couldnt overcome. She told me that she wanted me just once before I got married and committed my life to her sister.



Well, I was in total shock, and couldnt say a word.



She said, "Im going upstairs to my bedroom, and if you want one last wild fling, just come up and get me..."



I was stunned and frozen in shock as I watched her go up the stairs. I stood there for a moment, then turned and made a beeline straight to the front door. I opened the door, and headed straight towards my car.



Lo and be hold, my entire future family was standing outside, all clapping



With tears in his eyes, my father-in-law hugged me and said, "We are very happy that you have passed our little test. We couldnt ask for a better


man for our daughter. Welcome to the family."




And the moral of this story:




Always keep your condoms in your car

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