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[jjt]

hi,

so all this talk about rings and diamonds--but i wonder what people think about getting engaged at all. my bf and i have been together for almost a year, and we just passed the 1 yr anniversary of when we met. it was at an event, and i kinda thought for a few months leading up to it that he might propose there, but he didn't. we're a little older (mid 30s) and i'm thinking that waiting forever is just silly. what do you guys think? how long minimum should a couple be together before getting engaged and when do you think is together too long to not be cool anymore to not have popped the question?

[davidelevi]

It's up to you... My now wife and I were together for over 20 years before we decided (jointly) to get married officially.

[jjt]

wow. seriously!?!?!? ok..., well hell. i guess i can't complain as much about one year! ha!

[davidelevi]

Yep. We dated for about a year 1984-1985, broke up for 3, then got back together in 1988 and married in 2008 (after two kids and two houses together). Still going... for the moment

As partial exculpation for my (our?) tardiness, she did get a fair few pieces of jewellery before we decided to get married.

[HeartAndStone]

Hi jjt!

Welcome

IMHO, best way is play "Truth or Dare" but just be ready on how you will fire your question.

My friend encountered this dilemma, I remember her posting a silly question on yahoo answers..
And she also got some useful tips from ehow...hahahaha.
But then after two years of dating they decided to get married.


@Davide.. wow, it's true LOVE:wub:
Don't forget to give her flowers...

Cheers!

[Lanajoy]

I honestly think whenever you both feel like you are ready to make the commitment is the right time. Very often women are ready before men and even more so now when women are,"wearing the pants" in families. All the women I know are the breadwinners for their families, especially in the medical field where I work. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost nine years, I am 29, so essentially our entire adult lives. I wasn't ready to get married until very recently when I finished college and he waited, poor guy,lol. We are very much in love. We talk about getting married and having a family everyday. We are having my ring made together but I still expect that same old fashioned treatment, down on one knee. Enough about me.

Don't cut yourself short when it comes to true love. Love is love. You may need to kindly remind him of how happy and proud it will make you to be his wife. What worked with me is how important he felt it was to our future together. Keep your chin up and we will be waiting for the day you post your fancy new engagement ring!

[bikee]

I have to agree, there is no rush to jump into a deeper partnership if you are enjoying each others company right within its midst.

My partner and I are together for almost 5 years already and I don't think that there is anything close to a proposal coming on. Though I am not saying that it is not a possibility.

Again, you should be right with what you are now if you are happy with it. No need to complicate things if things are working well.