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[Dashizz]

Hey all, Simple question, mostly geared at the ladies...

1. Would you prefer when you are being proposed to, that he has the ring in the box, open facing you with the whole "down on one knee" formal "will you marry me" deal?

--or--

2. Do you think it's better, or more personal, to have the ring in the guys hand, as he is on one knee, doing the whole proposal?

I guess option 3. would include the whole "gift" or hidden treasure idea, making her unwrap it or find it. Personally, I don't like this idea, and would probably only consider it if I was really young, as it seems kind of childish/teenager-like.

[Dashizz]

55 views and no opinions?

[davidelevi]

Erm, perhaps no views from ladies?

[Dashizz]

Hehe...I suppose so.

[Christin123]

No woman, when confronted with a diamond ring, has ever thought "It should be in its box!" or "It should be in his hand!" In addition, no woman, when finding a hidden jewel box with a diamond ring in it, has ever thought "He should have just handed it to me," unless it of course it was so well hidden that she didn't find it for weeks or years. I know this because I traveled backwards in time and interviewed billions of women and asked them what they thought when the man they loved showed up with a diamond ring.

[Dashizz]

No woman, when confronted with a diamond ring, has ever thought "It should be in its box!" or "It should be in his hand!" In addition, no woman, when finding a hidden jewel box with a diamond ring in it, has ever thought "He should have just handed it to me," unless it of course it was so well hidden that she didn't find it for weeks or years. I know this because I traveled backwards in time and interviewed billions of women and asked them what they thought when the man they loved showed up with a diamond ring.

Why did you interview billions of women asking them about the time they were proposed to?

To me, i figure, some women would think one of two thoughts:
1. It's so much more personal, when the ring is in his hand...blah blah. --or--
2. It's so much more formal and nicer when you get a ring box opened before you with a ring inside during the proposal, and seems lame or cheap if the guy just holds a ring up within his fingers and says "will you marry me..." ...blah blah.

I guess bottom line, is when comes time to do the act myself, I don't want to sounds lame or cheap or depersonalized.

[davidelevi]

What would you prefer to do? I think you should be yourself always, but more so at moments like these.

[Dashizz]

What would you prefer to do? I think you should be yourself always, but more so at moments like these.

Eh, see that's my problem. I've thought about it, and am not really affected by either one. I figure that by going out and getting a ring and doing the whole act of proposing is enough in its own, and should be what means anything. And I'm sure in most relationships that is true and thus the presentation of the ring would not really matter. Call it a minute detail. I'm just trying to make it as "special" of a moment as it can be for her, when it happens.

[davidelevi]

Hummm... can someone (mutual friend, her sister, your mother-in-law-to-be) prise out of her what she would like?

Otherwise, why don't you focus on the proposal itself, and treat the ring as what it is - a token (and a relatively recent custom, by the way) of your commitment. It can be given at the moment of the proposal or afterwards, but by separating it from the proposal itself you may gain something.

[Dashizz]

Update: Did it with the ring in the box. It had some sentimental meaning, if you read my post on how I proposed, you'll see the meaning with the box. I kind of like the idea of using the box when I think about it.

[HeartAndStone]

Box- nothing fancy., don't try to puzzle us, your sincerity matters.,ayt?!

[green amethyst]

I prefer the ring in the box. There will be a moment of suspense and prolonged excitement as the ring will not be immediately visible.

[HeartAndStone]

I prefer the ring in the box. There will be a moment of suspense and prolonged excitement as the ring will not be immediately visible.

Hello green amethyst!

Welcome!
Your vote will definitely count!
Thanks for responding to this survey type of thread!
Guys shopping for e-rings are digging this!
Reading all the posts on this thoughtful inquiry is kinda sweet..

Cheers!

Edited by HeartAndStone, 11 June 2010 - 07:03 AM.

[gemgalga]

I guess I'm a little late to the party here, but here's my 2c:

who cares! as long as he's popping the question and not being a total goober about it or something, that's what matters! as far as the ring in hand, ring in box--that doesn't matter. sometimes presenting the ring first--IMHO--makes it more like you're accepting the RING not the proposal. the ring--good, bad or otherwise--is less important than the proposal. heck--the ring is a sign of sincerity as far as "i'm serious and i planned for this by having this in my hand while i'm doing it", but nothing wrong with proposing without a ring, as far as I'm concerned. you can then pick out the ring together, if you want.

i don't know--much as I love jewelry, i'm an old-fashioned girl in some ways and think that the proposal at the time is so much more important to the ring.

[LaurieH]

Closed box. Then you have the surprise of the proposal and then the surprise of the ring

[jessie9]

I dream that it will happen like this: Romantic walk in a romantic place, like the beach under a full moonlight. Romantic, fun, light-hearted conversation that leads to him taking out the CLOSED BOX. He proposes. Then he opens the box and looks into my eyes and waits for my answer.

[davidelevi]

It is even more memorable if the diamond ring [link removed] in solitaire setting is offered for wearing while his proposing as it would make your beloved feel more surprising with the creativity of the ring as well as the way you appraoch her to propose.

How does this answer or help the OP? And precisely why does this reply need to point to your site?

Edited by davidelevi, 18 May 2011 - 01:19 AM.

[LaurieH]

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[alvina]

the ring in the box is a better idea

[bikee]

I think that the only way people are going with that "ring in the box" kind of thing as it seems to have been a growing tradition already. I have no problems with that and the only thing that is holding me back from liking it as much is the idea of having the man hold onto it.

Not that I would want some fancy thing to go down but that just feels a lot personal for me.